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  We’ve learned that in the adoption community “ADOPTION IS TRAUMA” is a controversial statement. Many people have no idea that every adopted person experiences a trauma when they are separated from their birth mothers, otherwise known as “The Primal Wound”.  This is a new topic for most people so when they see ADOPTION IS TRAUMA, or they read it or hear about it they have a hard time understanding it. Some people simply don’t believe it or they attempt to negotiate that “Not all adoptions are traumatic”. The truth of the matter is “ADOPTION IS TRAUMA” isn’t something that...

I was thrilled to learn that I was the very 1st customer of Adoptee Merch. I've become increasingly excited over the past few years as adoptee voices are getting stronger and demanding to be heard.  It is adopted individuals are going to change the way the world views adoption.  After all, if it's all about the child being placed, then we damn well better listen to mature adoptees as they evaluate the process they endured w/o giving any input.  Now the idea of tee shirts really appeals to me because I think we are all individual billboards, traipsing across the...

  JUST LISTEN.   There are many voices vying for space in Adoptionland. But, the loudest continues to be that of adoptive parents. They hold the dominant narrative and continue to carry the cultural perceptions of adoption. Several months ago I had written a Facebook post that elicited emotional responses by those affected by adoption, including adoptive parents. I witnessed adoptees pleading their position while adoptive parents continued to dismiss and invalidate them. 'This isn't our experience, so it can't possibly be true..' They weren't listening. They were defensive and kept pushing back. It wasn't until another adoptive parent stepped...