I'm often labeled as "lucky," and always encouraged to be "grateful" that I was "chosen" over being aborted. It took several years for me discover that the threat of death was not hanging over my head. When I contacted my birth parents, I learned that abortion was never even an option.
As I came to know the Lord, I started to see how the system of adoption was a counterfeit to God's divine adoption through Christ. So often, these two are deemed parallels, and adoptive parents are seen as saviors. However, this is idolatry and it places a huge burden on the adoptee.
As I started to come out of the fog, I began to see that all along, I was the tool for serving other people's wishes and desires. At this point in my life, I grew so incredibly depressed, because I had no idea who I was. I was simply trying to be whoever I was being told to be, to avoid conflict.
I realized that I was not adopted, in the biblical sense. I was sold, in a wordly sense.
Faith in God, however, has taken me far.
A lot of people don't realize that our adoption system is promoting legal human trafficking and that so long as adoption exists as a business, it cannot be ethical or impartial. I think this t-shirt is a summarized way of educating others on this.
Perhaps it will encourage others to do some research.
I decided to write a book so that I could validate the adoptee experience.
The book is called: Why Aren't You Like Me? The Brochure Said You Would Be.
It is currently available on my publisher's website: lulu.com. It will be available at Barnes and Noble and on Amazon within the next month.
I hope it brings peace and comfort to many.
Link: Why Aren't You Like Me? The Brochure Said You Would Be.
I host a YouTube Channel: Cristina Fernandez
Adoptee Merch. is honored to participate in raising Adoptee Voices in our community and we're thankful for Cristina's participation in helping make this happen. We're stronger together!
This makes for a great staple t-shirt. It's made of a thicker, heavier cotton, but it's still soft. And the double stitching on the neckline and sleeves add more durability to what is sure to be a favorite!
• 100% ringspun cotton
• 4.5 oz (153 g/m2)
• Shoulder-to-shoulder taping
• Quarter-turned to avoid crease down the center