Why are Adoptees so Angry? -
“Lack of identity. Lack of origin. Adoption being about our adoptive parent’s pain which eclipses our own. Feeling like an outsider. Feeling helpless. Bullying. Discrimination. Systematic discrimination. Legal discrimination. Being forced to lead someone else’s life and not my own. Searching for an identity in all we know. Having to identify with painful back stories of pop culture icons who’s worlds have been destroyed (superman, Mr. Spock, starlord, the punisher the list goes on). Feeling like your life is a movie because we’ve been introduced as a supplemental character in our own story with no history. Having to grow up too fast. Being told we’re lucky. Being asked about our ‘real’ parents. Being looked at like an alien. Being told there’s a reason for our suffering without being told the reason. Feeling worthless because nobody values OUR needs. Feeling like there’s no end in sight. An inability to believe in ourselves because we believe there is something intrinsically wrong with us. Having to constantly wonder if the people you may know on Facebook are somehow related. Feeling the same feeling when walking down the street. Having to wonder when starting a new relationship whether or not they’re your sibling or cousin. Never being able to feel 100% comfortable in said relationship because of that. Feeling like love is someone leaving you. Never finishing anything because of a lack of closure.” - Adult Adoptee
Once we learn that it’s okay to be angry and the way we feel is natural for a not natural situation, healing can start to happen! Anger is a healthy response to how many of us feel about our adoption experiences. Own it, speak it, process it and continue to move forward.
We live in a world that will not acknowledge our trauma or anger. This T-shirt was designed for adoptees in mind who want to let the world know how adoption has made them feel. Our hope is it will strike conversations, and make a bold statement - Adoptees have many many reasons to be angry!
The question is what are we going to do about it? It's up to each of us to turn our anger into positive action! We're not waiting on change to happen, we are the change!
This t-shirt is everything you've dreamed of and more. It feels soft and lightweight, with the right amount of stretch. It's comfortable and flattering for both men and women.
• 100% combed and ring-spun cotton (heather colors contain polyester)
• Fabric weight: 4.2 oz (142 g/m2)
• Shoulder-to-shoulder taping